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Real Leaders Have the Guts to Have HARD Conversations
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Let's say one of your children or let's say someone in your family is sort of rubbing you the wrong way, usually at the dinner table or maybe it's at a family gathering. You don't say anything. Why don't you say this? "Hey, so-and-so, can I have a few minutes to chat with you?" And then you go off into a private place. Because you never want to do this in public. You always want the other person to save face. And you say, "Hey, you know what? Here's been feeling." That's a great line. That's a great verbal cue."Here's what I've been experiencing in our relationship. And I really care about the relationship. And it's making me feel angry and I'm feeling really disappointed."This is really powerful. This shows someone who not only loves the relationship, and the other person. It's showing someone who respects themself. And so you say, "Here's what I've been experiencing and it really hurts me and it disappoints me, and sometimes I feel really angry and I want the relationship to last. Is there a way that we can find some solutions so I don't feel like this and whatever. What do you think about it?" And that gives the other person the space to say, "Well, I had no idea." Or, "Thank you for letting me know." Or, "Well, I'm upset too and here's what I feel and here's what I've been experiencing and I'm frustrated about this." And then you can say, "Wow, I didn't know that."And it's hard and it takes bravery, but if you practice it, you get stronger, and you learn to be a better communicator. And this builds the relationship not only with the person at work or the person in the restaurant or the person within your home or family, most importantly it builds the relationship with yourself.
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The 25 Best Rules for Leadership
I thought I’d challenge myself to distill the real rules of leadership into the 25 best, after an adult life of working with many of the greatest companies and captains of industry in the world.
Let’s not waste a second—and jump right in:
1. When faced with a problem, a leader’s only option is to find a solution. And get the job done.
2. If you’re not making the people you lead greater, you’re not really leading. You’re only following.
3. You can change the world or you can play with your phone. You can’t do both.
4. Income and impact is the marketplace’s reward for the delivery of value and magic.
5. You can’t inspire your team and customers if you’re empty of inspiration. So run your calendar so you don’t drain yourself of inspiration. Ever.
6. You must believe in you, when nobody believes in you, until the entire planet believes in you.
7. The job of a leader is to walk into what’s uncomfortable, not away from it. Fear is simply freedom waiting for you to embrace it.
8. Instinct is more powerful than intellect and energy is more valuable than intelligence, when it comes to building a great business. And leaving a gorgeous legacy.
NOTE: I’ll be running my world-famous year-long mastermind The Mogul Accelerator for the FINAL time, beginning with the 3 day live summit in London on December 6th, 7th, and 8th. If you’re a successful entrepreneur who wants to be in a group of some of the greatest business-builders in the world and be mentored by me for a full year so your venture soars while you have the best year of your life then get your place here before we’re fully sold out.
9. If you’re not being laughed at a lot you’re not thinking very big.
10. The key to a domain dominant company isn’t your products and services but your values and culture. Focus on building an amazing ones and your people will live that message.
11. A key goal of business is to find a pain that many people suffer from and then solve it elegantly and efficiently. Solve people’s problems and they’ll pay you a fortune.
12. Rest for a leader isn’t a luxury but an absolute necessity. Genius-grade ideas show up not when you’re exhausted, but when you’re fresh.
13. Getting into the finest fitness of your life by exercise, nutrition and intelligent recovery isn’t a cost but an investment. Cheap costs more.
14. Reward is experienced in direct promotion to the amount of risk you’re taking. If you’re not having the level of winning you want, ask yourself if you’re taking enough risks each day.
15. No idea works for someone unwilling to do the work. The billionaires and top leadership teams I mentor are true masters of execution (not meetings!).
16. Success in leadership while losing your soulfulness and happiness is fool’s gold.
17. A difficult client is a fantatical fan in disguise. Turn the frustrated consumer around by wowing them.
18. Stop worrying so much about being interesting or liked and focus more on being interested and helpful. Leadership is not a popularity contest.
19. Grit, resilience and being relentless will help you rise to the top so much more than intelligence, good genes and lucky breaks. Persistency is the mother of mastery.
20. Join The 5AM Club! It’s a life-changing morning routine that has already helped tens of millions of people just like you consistently make their days magic. Own your mornings and you’ll win your days. Go ahead and get your copy of The 5AM Club book here and start reading it fast!
21. To lead fully is to serve greatly. Being useful to as many people as possible is the master skill of superb leaders. And it’s the gateway into joy, peace and true power. Trust me on this one. Please.
22. Life’s too short to wait for the perfect time to make your ethical ambitions real. Think big, start small and begin now.
23. Real leaders pursue a cause that’s larger than themselves. Ego-chasing is a limited game.
24. Build a great company and delight many customers yet don’t forget your family. Arriving at the top but being all alone will yield an empty victory.
25. Fortune favors the leader who disrupts. Please don’t fall so in love with your winning formula that you begin to fall in love with it.
I’ve worked hard on these rules (on my refueling break) because I really really really care about you and the rest of my readers globally.
I pray they serve you well! Please review them regularly, journal about the ones that speak most to you and SHARE them with your teammates, customers and friends.
Together, our community of over 100 million people who consume my content are making the world a wiser, better and brighter place. Thank you. It’s a genuine honour to be of service to you.
Love + respect,
Robin
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the rich person in the graveyard
Money is only one form of wealth. I’ll make this message for today fairly short, but it just might be one of the most important ones I’ve sent to you in a while.
Our culture has pushed and trained and brainwashed so many of us to chase money and watches and things so we become “rich.”
It’s sad. Because people get hurt (by getting nice things and losing their soul along the way).
And this brainwashing is designed to make us think that if we exhaust our energy and spend our lifeforce on this pursuit, we’ll get to a place where we wake up happy.
It’ll never happen. Never. Ever.
I’ve seen it time and time again with the billionaire clients that I’ve mentored for decades. They feel happy for a week and then the scientific phenomenon of hedonic adaptation takes effect, they normalize the new rewards and, of course, they want more.
Personally, I must share that though I’ve sold well over 25 million books and spoken in stadium after stadium for most of my adult life, such things have made pretty much no difference to my satisfaction levels. There are so many more important priorities for me.
20 years ago I introduced The 8 Forms of Wealth. My clients have found it deeply helpful in the building of an honestly beautiful life.
Once you learn each of them and then spend a little time each day making them more real in your hours I can assure you, you’ll become truly (versus fakely) rich.
A great life may have financial independence in it and if that’s important to you then win in this area, please. But without wellness, love, craft and the other forms (along with my unspecific tools that optimize each one) a person ends up as the richest person in the graveyard.
As we step into September, I just wanted you to take some time to reflect on what mountains you’re climbing. So you climb the correct ones.And, if you’d like to significantly increase your creativity and productivity between now and December so you end this year super strong, I enthusiastically encourage you to invest in a membership in my value-rich online course, HabitCamp. Here are the details.
I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes to keep you strong. I wish you a great day. Thank you for following my work. You’re great you know?
"Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, and the not-at-all.” - Ayn Rand
Love + respect,
Robin
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